Though attitudes toward plastic surgery are slowly changing, there is often a real or perceived stigma surrounding cosmetic surgery that can be hard to shake if you are considering undergoing an anti-aging or reshaping facial cosmetic procedure. Some people choose not to disclose their interest or plans to anyone to avoid criticism, but the decision about whether or not to let your family know about your plans for surgery can be complex and is highly individual. Sometimes, the procedure you get will necessitate explanation, while more subtle adjustments will leave the decision at your discretion. Here are some things to consider when deciding whom to confide in about you interest in cosmetic surgery.
Obviously, whether you tell someone about your surgery plans or not will depend on your relationship. It can be difficult and feel dishonest to keep a secret from your spouse, while your coworker is not entitled to know why you look different all of a sudden. If you are reluctant to tell a close friend or family member about your desire for surgery, ask yourself why. Are you worried they will judge you? Do you feel selfish or unjustified in moving forward with your plans? It can be difficult to disclose your surgery to those close to you, but it is often necessary and can help you feel better about your decision.
Remember, if you choose to tell your family and friends, you may come across criticism. Be patient and tactful, but do not let anyone talk you into doing something you do not want to do, or alternately talk you out of do something you want to.
Also, you would be surprised how people you hardly know or know well will come up with very negative comments about how you are healing or how you look post op. Jealously and regional prejudices against cosmetic surgery can come to the surface very readily.
Many of the more invasive procedures require that you have someone around to help look after you following surgery. If you are interested in rhinoplasty, a face lift or other major surgical procedure, you should get assistance for your recovery period to help ensure good results. Family and good friends can be particularly helpful in this regard.
If you need help with financing your procedure, you may need to involve other people as well. Financing is often available through plastic surgeons, but you may need to speak with others in regards to financial considerations, your spouse or grown children for instance.
The Subtlety of Results
Some minor procedures, such as fillers, produce subtle results that will usually just make people think you look refreshed. More invasive procedures, particularly surgical treatments, produce more obvious results that are more difficult to brush off when questioned.
Your Personal Feelings
The most important factor in whether to tell people about your plastic surgery is your own personal feelings. It is no one else’s business, and if you choose not to tell anyone, that is your prerogative.
A Trusted Ally
Your plastic surgeon will be more than just your surgeon–he or she will be your ally in getting the results you want. Even if you choose not to tell anyone else about your procedure, you will be able to voice any concerns or questions to your plastic surgeon with confidence. Choosing your surgeon is a big decision, and you should make sure he or she is board-certified, experienced in the procedure you are interested in, knowledgeable, and caring. If you are looking for a surgeon with all of these qualities in Massachusetts, look no further than Dr. Stuart Bentkover, of Bentkover Facial Plastic Surgery in Worcester (508-363-6500) and Stoneham (617-247-0033). Dr. Bentkover has been providing top-notch surgical services for more than two decades, and claims a high rate of patient satisfaction. To schedule your consultation, call either location to set up your appointment.